It hurts when I have sex!
Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, intimate, and deeply connecting. But for many women, it’s a source of discomfort and even pain. If you’ve found yourself wondering, Why does sex hurt every time?, you’re not alone. Studies show that 75% of women will experience painful sex (dyspareunia) at some point in their lives, and for some, it’s a chronic issue that impacts their relationships, mental health, and overall quality of life.
As an Advanced Biostructural Correction (ABC) chiropractor, I see many women whose discomfort during sex isn’t just “all in their head.” Often, the root cause is structural misalignments in their body—misalignments that can be corrected to restore comfort, confidence, and function.
Posture isn’t just about how you stand—it’s about how your entire body functions. When your body isn’t properly aligned, every movement, from walking to sitting to intimate moments, can be affected. Simply put, how you sit, stand, and move every day can have a huge impact on how you feel during sex. Here are some of the reasons why:
- Pelvic Misalignment
The pelvis is the foundation of the body’s structure, and when it’s out of alignment, it can affect the surrounding muscles, ligaments, and organs. Misaligned pelvic bones can create undue tension in the pelvic floor muscles, making penetration painful. This misalignment may even put pressure on nearby nerves, amplifying discomfort. - Tight or Overactive Pelvic Floor Muscles
Many women with misaligned posture unknowingly carry excessive tension in their pelvic floor muscles. These muscles, responsible for supporting the bladder, uterus, and rectum, can become too tight or overactive, leading to pain during sex. This condition is sometimes referred to as pelvic floor dysfunction, and it’s more common than you might think. - Poor Posture and Its Domino Effect
Ever notice how long hours hunched over a desk or looking down at your phone can leave your lower back aching? Poor posture doesn’t just affect your back—it can throw your entire body out of balance. When your spine is misaligned, it can cause compensatory patterns in the pelvis, hips, and surrounding muscles, setting the stage for discomfort during intercourse. - Nerve Compression
Structural misalignments in the lower back or sacrum (the base of the spine) can irritate or compress nerves that travel to the pelvic region. This can result in shooting pain, numbness, or hypersensitivity during sex.
Advanced Biostructural Correction ABC looks at the body as a whole system, working to restore alignment in the correct sequence. This approach allows the body to function as it was designed to—without compensations, restrictions, or unnecessary tension.
I’ll never forget one of my clients—let’s call her Sarah. She came to see me for recurring lower back pain, but during our consultation, she opened up about something more personal: painful sex. She described a persistent ache in her pelvis and tightness that made intimacy with her partner difficult and, frankly, something she dreaded. She was frustrated, feeling like no one had been able to give her answers.
Through consistent ABC care, we worked on realigning her pelvis and addressing the compensatory tension in her body. Sarah also made small changes to her posture—how she sat at her desk, her sleeping position, and even how she moved throughout the day. Over time, not only did her lower back pain improve, but she began to notice that sex was becoming more comfortable, too.
Now, let me be clear: chiropractic care didn’t “cure” her pain overnight. But by addressing her body’s structural imbalances, Sarah was able to relieve much of the tension and irritation that had been contributing to her discomfort. She later shared with me how much this improvement had boosted her confidence and intimacy with her partner—something that’s priceless.
If you’re experiencing pain during sex, know this: you don’t have to suffer in silence. It’s not just “in your head,” and it’s not something you have to push through. Often, the body’s structural alignment plays a bigger role in sexual health than most people realize.
Through Advanced Biostructural Correction, we work to get to the root of the problem—not just masking the symptoms but addressing the structural imbalances that may be contributing to your discomfort.
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